In Part One of What is BPD? I said I would write about our life with BPD. I've pulled on my big girl pants, thrown the mask to the floor and I'm ready to spill my guts! Actually, I've probably hyped it up a bit too much, and it's thin on salacious details. No, I … Continue reading What is BPD? Part 2
I usually write blogs about David and loved ones of people in prison because I am passionate about the lives of people in prison. So why the hell am I poking my nose into Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD)?? Because 80% of the people in our prisons are affected by BPD. That's not a rough guess. … Continue reading What is BPD? Part One.
Self-care for #LoopyWarriors. My previous blog was all about supporting your man through lockdown. The attention was solely focused on his wants and needs. Is that sexist? Does it fly in the face of equality? Not at all, it's expressing love, care and compassion for the man you love while he is forced to endure … Continue reading How to love a prisoner. Part 3
Over recent months, there have been many discussions around payment of services provided by ‘people with lived experience of being in prison.’ Perhaps, a more accurate title would be Prison Consultant. I would like to make a comparison to my own ‘lived experience of being a Health and Safety Consultant.’ Ironically, my job is to keep Directors out of … Continue reading Me? Work unpaid?
Since joining his ‘journey of a reformed man’, David has given me countless reasons to be proud of him. Yesterday he made me proud, because he did absolutely nothing. He just walked away and came home. I won’t sugar coat it. David was a nasty, violent career criminal. In and out of prison for four … Continue reading Now that’s what I call a reformed man
Lockdown conditions for our prisoners are barbaric and inhumane. Two weeks isolation banged up 23 hours a day would have made sense and we would have been overflowing with gratitude for HMPPS for protecting our loved ones.
The highlight of the month, without question, is visiting your loved one, even if you only get half an hour, in a face mask, two metres away with no snogging, groping or cuddling. Visits are the most precious and the most important dates in your diary. Living from visit to visit means it's not unusual … Continue reading How to love a prisoner. Part One Visits.
If only some employers would look beyond the DBS Enhanced Checks and base their recruitment on the skills, knowledge and experience of each candidate. We would soon see employers climbing over each other to employ people who've been in prison. Can you imagine a world where you are given a job on merit, based on … Continue reading How to make the best of your transferable prison skills
"I'm meeting my PO & PSO at OMU to update my P-NOMIS, ACCT, ARMS, MAPPA and OVP. I'm down for HDC at an AP but I failed my MDT and I'm on IEP."
In previous blogs I have taken a very light-hearted look at David’s institutionalisation following his release from prison. However, there really isn’t a funny side to this blog. It has long been recognised and accepted that prisoners can become institutionalised. But a closer look at some prison staff confirms that violence, corruption and abuse is … Continue reading What do you mean institutionalised? Part 3.