FFS! It's just a pudding! I received some fantastic feedback from my previous blog In-Cell Cuisine 1960s to 1980s. Thank you all very much. But, absolutely no mention of my extensive research or my newly found gift for silly memes and not a word about my imaginative writing. Without exception, it was all about the … Continue reading All about Duffncustard
When I write a blog my first priority will always be to offer information, help and support to the loved ones of men in our prisons. Because that's what I know. One of the ways I do this is by sharing real life stories from real life men who have been in real life prisons. … Continue reading Be my guest.
It was a Marvellous time. As you know, the blogs I write are based on David’s experiences between 1985 and 2017. On this occasion I’ve had to call in the experts who were in prison prior to 1985. There’s a good chance that you’ve already heard anecdotes of people in prison ‘cooking in a kettle’ and the … Continue reading 1. In-Cell Cuisine 1960’s – 1980’s
My name is Kelly, but for reasons best known to himself, David calls me Keef or the Missus. I'm proud to say that David Breakspear is my old man. Why am I so proud? Because in 1985, at the age of 15, David received his first custodial sentence and was sent to a Detention Centre and … Continue reading Who’s Keef?
When I am asked what television documentary portrays our prison system with the most accuracy, my answer always takes them by surprise. With no shadow of a doubt, the best documentary, which is not even a documentary, is the 1970s sit-com, Porridge. I’ve yet to see its accurate portrayal of prison surpassed. Don’t just take … Continue reading The history of ‘Porridge’
For the past three years, David has taken every opportunity to speak publicly about the importance of education in prison. Podcasts, radio shows, AGM's, conferences, schools, pupil referral units, universities and every conceivable platform all over the UK. Not only within the criminal justice system, but to the wider audience of the general public and … Continue reading Breakspear Breaks Into Europe
In What is BPD? Part One I provided a brief explanation of Borderline Personality Disorder, the nine characteristics that form the diagnostic criteria and the prevalence of BPD in our prisons. I then covered each of the nine characteristics and how they relate to David and I, in What is BPD? Part 2. In this, … Continue reading What is BPD? Part 3.
In Part One of What is BPD? I said I would write about our life with BPD. I've pulled on my big girl pants, thrown the mask to the floor and I'm ready to spill my guts! Actually, I've probably hyped it up a bit too much, and it's thin on salacious details. No, I … Continue reading What is BPD? Part 2
I usually write blogs about David and loved ones of people in prison because I am passionate about the lives of people in prison. So why the hell am I poking my nose into Borderline Personality Disorders (BPD)?? Because 80% of the people in our prisons are affected by BPD. That's not a rough guess. … Continue reading What is BPD? Part One.
Self-care for #LoopyWarriors. My previous blog was all about supporting your man through lockdown. The attention was solely focused on his wants and needs. Is that sexist? Does it fly in the face of equality? Not at all, it's expressing love, care and compassion for the man you love while he is forced to endure … Continue reading How to love a prisoner. Part 3