Christmas in Jail 2020

When your loved one is in prison it's shit and Christmas is a million times more shit. It's absolutely the shittiest time of the year. I've been through Christmas with a loved one in jail, I know how shit it is and I want to help others make it less shit. The best help and … Continue reading Christmas in Jail 2020

Christmas Compilation

This bumper Christmas compilation special edition is packed full of quotes from ex-cons, their loved ones, prison staff and ex-prison staff. All quotes are as written without censoring, spell checking or correcting grammar. A straightforward copy and paste from online comments and no names. The language used is colloquial and specific to the prison environment. … Continue reading Christmas Compilation

All about Duffncustard

FFS! It's just a pudding! I received some fantastic feedback from my previous blog In-Cell Cuisine 1960s to 1980s. Thank you all very much. But, absolutely no mention of my extensive research or my newly found gift for silly memes and not a word about my imaginative writing. Without exception, it was all about the … Continue reading All about Duffncustard

Be my guest.

When I write a blog my first priority will always be to offer information, help and support to the loved ones of men in our prisons. Because that's what I know. One of the ways I do this is by sharing real life stories from real life men who have been in real life prisons. … Continue reading Be my guest.

What is BPD? Part 2

In Part One of What is BPD? I said I would write about our life with BPD. I've pulled on my big girl pants, thrown the mask to the floor and I'm ready to spill my guts! Actually, I've probably hyped it up a bit too much, and it's thin on salacious details. No, I … Continue reading What is BPD? Part 2

How to love a prisoner. Part 3

Self-care for #LoopyWarriors. My previous blog was all about supporting your man through lockdown. The attention was solely focused on his wants and needs. Is that sexist? Does it fly in the face of equality? Not at all, it's expressing love, care and compassion for the man you love while he is forced to endure … Continue reading How to love a prisoner. Part 3

Now that’s what I call a reformed man

Since joining his ‘journey of a reformed man’, David has given me countless reasons to be proud of him.  Yesterday he made me proud, because he did absolutely nothing. He just walked away and came home. I won’t sugar coat it. David was a nasty, violent career criminal. In and out of prison for four … Continue reading Now that’s what I call a reformed man

How to love a prisoner. Part 2

Lockdown conditions for our prisoners are barbaric and inhumane. Two weeks isolation banged up 23 hours a day would have made sense and we would have been overflowing with gratitude for HMPPS for protecting our loved ones.

Rehabilitation is an attitude

I wrote a post earlier today which can be seen below as it is one that indirectly brought the term rehabilitation to the forefront of my thoughts once again. '#labels. Our priorities change as our years progress and I'm sure there's no need for me to list examples. #parenthood Over the last three years I … Continue reading Rehabilitation is an attitude

In-career-ceration

I recently read an article about prison and prisoners of which I don't want to say I was shocked or surprised by because that would be the wrong choice of wording to use. I suppose the best description, and I'm going back on myself slightly, would be that the article left me feeling pleasantly surprised. … Continue reading In-career-ceration